Top of the morning

The thing is, when we start becoming comfortable with each other, things start going downhill. Well at least for most.

I love it when I meet new people, and we have this instant connection between us, as though we'd known each other for ages when we've really just met 3minutes ago. For most, this spark just fades after the conversation, and for some, it develops into friendship. Because I'm so nitty-picky about friends and stuff, I actually like it when I can be acquainted with people and stay at that stage of acquaintance. I find this stage of relations the purest and most stress-free because people simply have no expectations of those whom they're acquainted with - they may bump into each other on the road and chat about anything and everything under the Sun, and that's all. Undoubtedly, I find some acquaintances oh-so-lovely, and I desperately want to keep them as friends. It's a whole different thing though, when you pass that stage of acquaintanceship and move onto being friends and etc. We start giving more and expecting more. It takes two hands to clap, and two to make things work. What happens when the other party doesn't reciprocate? Afterall, people whom you consider friends may consider you otherwise in their own social book. Human relations is a tricky, tricky thing that takes loads of effort and time to build and maintain - reason why I love having just a few good 'solid' friends.

But of course, people do not think about all these things when they just befriend or be acquainted with people, we usually let nature take its course and only leave such thoughts till cracks begin to form and one night, you find yourself in your own land of doubts, such as having the so-called primary school, 'are we friends' thought. The thing is, when two people start becoming too comfortable with each other, that's when things start going downhill.

Rewind back to when you've just met this person. You're all smiles and polite, you treat each other with utmost respect, you talk in a tactful manner, careful not to offend your newest acquaintance. Then fate has it, you guys start becoming friends. Now the politeness fades cos it's deemed hypocrisy and weird to be overly polite with friends, and you begin exploring new topics and things you felt were unsafe at the initial stage of your relationship - by this, I mean friendship, not BGR. But as time passes, we tend to become overly comfortable with people we know, and then shit happens for some, as we start taking them for granted. As we continue to meet new people, we sometimes leave the good ol' friends in the closet, thinking and expecting them to be there when we are done. 


And I know, if you google/Tumblr 'friendship', many says true friends are those who came and never left and I do agree, well to a certain extent. It really depends who you pledge your loyalty to, or, 'friendyalty' except there isn't such a word.


But in the end, we are only humans, and if I were that idiot in the closet, and if undeserving people had the nerve to leave me in there, much as I cherish friendship and ties, I'd wanna get up and go. I find it funny how sometimes people expect others to stay and be there for them while they out-rightly abandoned them in the first place. And no, I'm not saying when people are friends, they should only stick with each other throughout and not make new friends or socialise with others, because human nature drives us to socialise and have the want to make friends with like-minded people. I'm saying people should learn how not to neglect by first learning how to cherish, and not take others for granted. 

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I'm impressed with my ability to crap. I really only came to say the words in italics and extended it a bit to illustrate my point. Seems like I've strayed along my plans and I somehow don't seem to make sense.Well it's 6.22am now, way pass my non-existence bedtime. Heading to bed to get charged for another delightful day of mugging. 


PS. Then again, the whole too 'comfortable around friends' thing is not without exceptions. I have friends I am fucking comfortable with whom are equally comfortable around me, and I like to think of them as sisters from another mother. But then again, we can only have that many sisters or brothers around. 


PPS. I realise it looks horridly ugly when published as opposed to the page I'm typing on, but I'm not about to edit it, it's 6.32am and I want my bed.


Goodnight earthlings,